05/08/2024
While planning my UK trip, I had two-three specific to-do lists on my mind. One of them was to visit an English pub. The British pub culture is a thing. You just have to experience it once.
There is a pub in every nook and cranny of London and other cities and the pub going norms are very different from what we have in India. For one, there's no loud music in the pubs. Two, you can take the kids to a pub. Unlike India, the English pubs are not a space for men to hit at or letch at women or make lewd gestures. A woman sitting alone in a British pub is not considered an easy target for r**e and molestation.
Pubs are the primary social location in London. The city largely shuts down by 6 pm and the pubs are the only place to spend time out. Most shops and markets including cafes, grocery stores, super markets etc. close by 6 to 8 pm. The pubs hold license to run till 11 pm to later in night.
Pubs are not bars. They do not serve fancy cocktail. Pubs are not restaurants they do not serve fancy dinner. Most pubs traditionally serve lager, ale, spirts and no food at all. It was very confusing for me to understand what is what. They are varieties of beer I guess, but I still do not fully know. It is totally acceptable to hang out in the pub with your kids. They serve soft drinks for kids or those who are supposed to drive after the evening out.
I visited a traditional pub in Newcastle with my colleague, his wife and kids. It had a very grungy appearance but there was no music at all. Just a bunch of people talking and laughing loudly. Men and women from a diverse age, some sitting alone while some were in groups.
One particular group consisted of 10-12 men women in the age of 60s to 70s. They were in party dresses. The women were in florals skirts, satin frocks, long dresses, with fancy hats, and cute bows in their hair and the men were in formal suits and tuxedos. It was obvious that they were celebrating something.
After sometime, a lady in a beige satin knee-length dress with a flower tiara came and offered us a box of cake. "It's my wedding cake, we have a lot extra will you like to have some?" She said. We immediately congratulated her on her wedding but there was an obvious hint of harmless curiosity on our faces or tone. She probably sensed it and said, "Well! Yes. I am a 70-year-old bride, and that's my wedding cake."
70-year-old bride and groom were throwing their wedding reception at the English pub with no music but heart full of laughter. This is why I wanted to visit a British pub. I wanted to see it for myself just how cool and progressive the culture is. I told myself that maybe, someday, if I am living in this culture, I may still find that one thing I never found in India. Romantic love.
I did not want to do dumb touristy things like taking photos of English people at a English pub but you can see the groom somewhere in the background in the selfie.