Kozy Korner

28/08/2026

The Journey Back to Being.

Life is a lot like Jenga; the problem isn't always the block you removed, but the blocks you forgot were holding you up. We are very good at telling a man what to do when life falls apart. Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off. You are a man. Move on. It sounds wonderful almost motivational-poster wonderful. But do we ever stop to ask what happens…...

21/08/2026

The Tomato Sauce Principle.

Sometimes life doesn't need a complete reset. It just needs a different angle. I was recently having one of those conversations with a good male friend where two grown men sit down and, instead of discussing football, business or who owes whom a drink, suddenly start auditing their lives. You know the conversation. The one where you move from “How is business?”...

Sometimes life doesn’t need a complete reset. It just needs a different angle. I was recently having one of those conversations with a good male friend where two grown men sit down and, inste…

19/08/2026

Tea with Alexander.

It's Wednesday again, and this morning my thoughts have landed somewhere rather unexpected: the little warning light on your car dashboard. You know the one. That tiny, usually inconvenient light that suddenly appears when you're already late, the fuel is low, or you're halfway to somewhere important. Your first instinct is often to look at it, sigh, and say, "We'll deal with that later."...

It’s Wednesday again, and this morning my thoughts have landed somewhere rather unexpected: the little warning light on your car dashboard. You know the one. That tiny, usually inconvenient l…

14/08/2026

Your Marriage Is Not a WhatsApp Group.

Not everyone needs to know what happened last night. There was a time in my life when, whenever my marriage was going through turbulence, I realised I had quietly developed what I can only describe as an unofficial board of directors. The strange thing is, I never appointed them. Life did. My father had passed on while I was still relatively young, so when I needed guidance on marriage, manhood, or simply how to navigate life, I naturally gravitated towards older men....

Not everyone needs to know what happened last night. There was a time in my life when, whenever my marriage was going through turbulence, I realised I had quietly developed what I can only describe…

12/08/2026

Tea With Alexander

It's another very chilly Wednesday morning, and today I have a serious problem: black tea or purple Orthodox tea? Two perfectly respectable teas starring back at me, each making a rather convincing case for why I should choose it. But as I look at the two , I realise that life is a little like choosing your tea you have to know…...

It’s another very chilly Wednesday morning, and today I have a serious problem: black tea or purple Orthodox tea? Two perfectly respectable teas starring back at me, each making a rather conv…

07/08/2026

Sorry, But Are You REALLY Sorry?

When an apology meets the long memory of a relationship There is a question I suspect many women have asked themselves at some point: can a man actually be sorry? Not the kind of sorry that comes after he has been caught. Not the kind that arrives when the atmosphere at home has suddenly become colder than Maseru in winter. Not the kind that follows the discovery that his wife has changed the Wi-Fi password, the banking password, and possibly even the way she looks at him....

When an apology meets the long memory of a relationship There is a question I suspect many women have asked themselves at some point: can a man actually be sorry? Not the kind of sorry that comes a…

05/08/2026

Tea With Alexander.

Wednesday Tea Thoughts There is a particular kind of loneliness that can happen even when the person you want to talk to is still right there. It is the moment you realise you are beginning to feel like a disturbance to the one person whose presence once felt like home. The replies become shorter. The warmth disappears. Conversations that once flowed effortlessly now feel like you are squeezing water from a stone....

31/07/2026

Give Me My Flowers Before the Funeral.

"Life has taught me that the best funeral contribution you can ever make is showing up while the person is still alive." Some years ago, I made what many of my family members and friends considered one of the most outrageous announcements of my adult life. I told them that should I ever leave this world for that mysterious land said to be flowing with milk and honey a place, rather suspiciously, from which nobody has ever returned to give us a proper situation report I wanted exactly seventy-two hours of drama....

“Life has taught me that the best funeral contribution you can ever make is showing up while the person is still alive.” Some years ago, I made what many of my family members and friend…

29/07/2026

Tea with Alexander

Wednesday Tea Thoughts Every Wednesday morning begins with a simple ritual. I put the kettle on, add some tea masala to the pot, pour over boiling water and let it steep while breakfast comes together. Nothing elaborate just good Kenyan tea, a quiet table, and a few uninterrupted moments before the world starts asking for my attention. My favourite mug bears simple words: …...

Wednesday Tea Thoughts Every Wednesday morning begins with a simple ritual. I put the kettle on, add some tea masala to the pot, pour over boiling water and let it steep while breakfast comes toget…

24/07/2026

The Most Expensive Discount a Man Will Ever Take.

Men have an interesting way of dealing with pressure. Some go quiet. Some bury themselves in work. Some disappear into bars. Some convince themselves that one more bottle will make tomorrow feel lighter. And some, well, some discover what they like to call “peace.” It usually has a different name in everyone else’s phone. When life becomes noisy at home, the temptation is rarely the affair itself....

Men have an interesting way of dealing with pressure. Some go quiet. Some bury themselves in work. Some disappear into bars. Some convince themselves that one more bottle will make tomorrow feel li…