17/08/2023
A boundary
is not a NO
to someone else’s existence.
It’s a YES to yours.
To your voice. Your delicate heart. Your truth.
Your path, however uncertain you feel.
Your way. Honouring it. What you need, what you feel. What you don't.
What feels right, and what doesn't.
It's not an attack on the other
(even if it feels that way to them).
You can't control their feelings.
But you can honour your own.
(And you can understand
their disappointment and hurt too).
You can't change their thoughts.
That is certain.
But you can trust and allow your own.
From a place of deep acceptance,
from total alignment with the way things are,
grounded in love,
rooted in the undulating breath,
you find yourself bravely saying…
NO.
And this kind of NO
has the power of life in it,
since it emanates from
a deep YES to existence.
It contains no violence, only truth,
dignity, self-respect, clarity.
You have a right to your NO
and a right to your YES.
True boundaries do not block love,
they protect it,
allow it to flourish, freely, safely…
…in the deeper YES
of unbounded
Presence.
- Jeff Foster
