05/18/2026
This weekended I hosted another 3-Day Couples Intimacy Retreat. My approach to exploring intimacy hasn’t changed drastically, but my approach to guidance has revealed itself in a way that felt so much more authentic and less “borrowed.” We spend a lot of time in the forest at Inntirety; be it cleaning up the paths, upgrading “off-grid” amenities, forest beautification, etc. — so like many things that show up in our daily eco-interactions.
Maybe it was the New Moon, maybe it was divine timing — who knows and really, what does it matter. What I know is that somewhere between the initial conversation with the couple and designing the itinerary, there was clarity. Everything I do, a majority of my time, is spent in nature. Since always, the forest and Mother Nature have been the catalyst to many of my most profound transformations and change of perception.
The epiphany was exactly what I already knew but was “trying” to add layers to maybe “enhance” what already “was.”
I finished the schedule, printed out the exercises, and organized the intimacy toolbox as I always do, but instead of studying and refreshing the techniques, I put it all aside.
I took a stroll through the woods. And there it was. Yes, I would still utilize my tried and true, but this time, I made some modifications. Rather, some simplifications.
What I’ve been sitting with in my personal journey is the mantra, “I am enough.” I’ve turned down the noise from the outside and very intentionally tuned in to “what is.”
What does that mean? Instead of adding, I’m extracting. Simplifying. Do we really need all of the bells and whistles, do we really need more tactics and techniques, do we really need MORE?
Well, the Inntirety “mantra” is this, “Transform your story into a fairytale, Reawaken your Inner Child & Reconnect with your Authentic Self in a 5-Acre Enchanted Forest.” I’ve changed many things on the Inntirety website, but the one thing I’ve never changed is that declaration. It is so simple. So real. Why? Because it’s experiential. It’s felt. It’s tactile. It’s accessible. It’s one-size-fits-all. It is slowing down and a “sacred remembering.”
No one needs to be instructed on how to “remember.” We make things so complicated. Inntirety is not complicated. It is an expression of “what is” when you return to what is real. Our hearts never forget. We don’t need to “reclaim” anything as it was never gone. It is the sacred act of remembering.
While I have some credentials to my name, I choose to leave them out of this space. We aren't our titles, after all. Ditching those labels allows us to step out of the roles of 'teacher' and 'student' so we can just meet as friends, sharing from the heart and connecting as human beings at a much deeper, more vulnerable level.
The day this beautiful couple arrived, I left the guidebook in the house. I shed the excess and walked with this couple as friends. I feel it was the best yet. Why? It was real.
My favorite part. Before the bath, in my heart of hearts, I knew they needed to dance. I asked if they had a "song." Yes, they did.
I won't share it but I will share a few of the lyrics,
"Ain't gonna say there won't be some days
That'll give us all we can take
But we won't back down
If we lean on love and faith
We're never gonna break."
With permission, I share a few of the photos taken by myself and by my new friends.
